Happy (Belated) Mother's Day

[kjazzygirl]

Just wanted to wish all the moms here a (belated) Happy Mother's Day! My day was once again, way below average, just like my birthday. Nothing from son...not even a "Happy Mother's Day" wish. I don't want anything material.....he could have grilled something for dinner, washed my car or even just washed the dishes. Maybe a card made on the computer? OR the best gift ever is he could move out of our home!! That would be GREAT! Sorry, it just really pisses me off all I have done for him and sacrificed for him and I get no appreciation - zero. But I'm just venting here because I do NOT let him think for a minute it bothers me. I am really beginning to detach from him really well. I have so much to offer and so many people - husband, grandson, mom & dad - that deserve the love, time and attention that has been wasted on son.

And slowly he is losing priveleges because of his disrespect and disregard for other peoples things. He has no vehicle and can no longer use ours.....$1200 damage to my car was the last straw. As he continues to disobey the rules and disrespect our property, he will continue to lose priveleges and maybe it will get so bad for him he will move out! I know, wishful thinking.....I believe I will be stuck with him for the rest of my life and that he will forever act age 17. That's why I'm working on ME now and sometimes it helps to just write it down and get it out. Thanks for listening! Kat

[Spirit]

Hi Girl, Happy belated Mother's Day right back at you. Your son sounds like a lot of self-centered teenagers I've heard about lately. Wish you luck with him. I like your idea about concentrating on the others in your immediate family.

[kjazzygirl]

Thanks! Unfortunately he is 28 years old......but he does act like a teenager.

[Muddler]

Kat, it sounds like you're still battling with your son. Glad you're taking some stricter measures. BP is no excuse for being a lout. And a happy mother's day to you. You deserve it!

[scifinut]

We don't celebrate Mother's Day around here because the expectations are too much for any of us. Instead we spent a pleasant day doing normal activities. It makes for a much more relaxing atmosphere. I'm not a mom because I expect to be appreciated.

Kat, sorry to hear things are still not going well with your son. Maybe it's time to show him the door?

[kjazzygirl]

I really don't think it's the fact that he didn't remember me on mother's day. I'm used to that by now. It's just the fact that the only person he ever considers is himself. That's what gripes me. I think even his 5 yo son comes 2nd to him which infuriates me! Oh well, thanks for letting me steam. I've pretty much realized I just can't bring myself to kick him out of the house....at least not unless he does something a lot worse than what he has so far. Yep, I guess it could be worse (and has been a lot worse than it is now!) thanks for listening. Kat